For the past six months or so, I have started to notice a pattern. Anytime I post a slightly viral-ish post in a facebook group, I get between 10 and 30 requests to ‘have a conversation’, ‘pick my brain’, ‘ask me about my journey’, ‘get insights into how I did it’. This equates to as many as a HUNDRED a week, and sometimes even DOZENS a day. They come via tags, via emails, via private messages.
And for a number of months, I kept saying yes. And yes again.
Talk about an energetic leak.
Thanks to a post I read a couple years back from Marie Forleo, long before I needed it, I have clear boundaries on that notion. The answer? Almost unequivocally no. And no thank you.
Most recently? I’ve started saying no gracefully. And in alignment with how I function in the world.
My most recent response?
“I’d LOVE to be able to do that. But the truth is, if I did that for every request I wouldn’t have a business!
I get asked nearly a dozen times a day. unsure emoticon BUT! I answer a lot of questions in the Bliss Brigade (for freesies) and you’re welcome to ask ANY question there and I will likely respond. (It helps because a lot of people have the same questions so I can be more judicious of my time).
I so appreciate you being interested in my journey, it is just time prohibitive for me to chat with folks. Thank you for understanding! It is totally not personal or a reflection of you. I’ve just had to have boundaries with how I spend my time these days.”
The truth is? I’m writing a book. I’m managing a retreat property purchase. And I am managing a launch of the Vision Incubator. I just don’t have time, no matter how MUCH time I want to have. I just don’t have it. I’m not busy per se, in a traditional sense. I just don’t have the energetic space to hold for people who aren’t paying me for time with me. Full. Stop.